3rd column of the fourth step resentment list breakdown.
Security
a) material/financial security, survival instinct.
b) emotional security - self esteem, feeling good about oneself.
Social
a) The desire to have friends and keep them. Personal relationships.
b) Desire to hold a position within a social group Example: A position at work. A position in an AA group. A position on a sports team. Leader or position within a political organization. Much of this instinct can be about the social prestige attached to having the position. I can now tell my friends I'm the leader or VP or manager etc..
c) Desire for social prestige/acceptance (in a group or to individuals)
Sex
a) socially acceptable sex relations.
b) hidden sex relations (affairs, sex that you would want to hide from others)
Identify which one of the instincts are threatened by the person, institution or principle which have caused resentment. Then make a mental note ( to be talked about in the 5th step ) of how theses instincts / desires have been threatened.
Also note - AMBITIONS TO SATISFY ANY OF THE ABOVE.
It could be that the resentment held against a person is threatening ambition to satisfy one of the instincts in the future. For example someone has said something bad about me to a person I am pursuing for a sexual or romantic relationship. Now I'm angry and resentful at this person for bad mouthing me. Why? Because my ambition to satisfy my social instinct (desire to have the relation) and my ambition to have sex has been threatened. How has it been threatened? It has to do with my thinking. I think that the person I am pursuing now thinks less of me and won't want to know me or go out with me because of what the person with whom I now hold a resentment said to them.
