Thursday, September 6, 2018

Normal versus abnormal drinking - in other words am I an alcoholic or not?


I read a recent forum post where somebody had asked "am I a normal drinker?"

I responded with my reply which I will post here. 

I know what an abnormal drinker is. I am an alcoholic and I know this because I have studied the Big Book of Alcoholics Anonymous and identify with AA's description of alcoholism. I am not just a hard drinker, but what AA calls a "real" alcoholic.
 
AA defines alcoholism as a two fold illness. Alcoholism has two features:
 
1) An allergy of the body. Consumption of alcohol produces a craving to consume more. Once I start to drink I can't help but just keep going. I get this over powering craving to drink more once I start. Once I crossed the line and became alcoholic I could not moderate my consumption and would always get drunk once I started to drink
 
2) Obsession of the mind. Since everytime I drank I would get drunk I started having a lot of problems. I finally made up my mind to quit because I found I could not even moderate anymore. I had to abstain complely. THE PROBLEM WAS I COULD NOT ABSTAIN FOR VERY LONG. Usually maximum of 2 months. I lost the ability to control my drinking using my own will power. I tried for 3 years but fell off the wagon again and again and again. My will power was non existent. So lack of will power, the ability to think straight 100% of the time is a mental obsession. I could not control it anymore on my own thinking.
 
As a result I was powerless to control my drinking. Only an complete physic change could relieve my alcoholism.
 
I got that change by doing the 12 steps of AA 

On pages 20 and 21 of the Alcohlics Anonymous book they point out that there is a definite difference between a "real" alcoholic and just a hard "problem" drinker and moderate drinker. The simple difference is in lack of control.

Put simply in the chapter "More about Alcoholism". (pg 30-31)

We alcoholics are men and women who have lost the ability to control our drinking. We know that no real alcoholic ever recovers control.

Saturday, June 10, 2017

AA Fellowship party lines and catch phrases that are not the program.

I've been to countless AA meetings over the years. We all know how different they can be. Certain meetings attract certain crowds. Some are more focused on the program than others. Some seem like just social gatherings around not drinking. Other meetings have more emphasis on practicing the 12 steps, the practical program of action to recover. I was at a meeting recently and one individual likes to speak off topic and talk about the most recent "pearls of wisdom" he has picked up. Here are some things I've heard people say over the years that do not line up with the program and are actually contradictory to what the literature says.


1. What we do around here is not drink no matter what.
    AA literature states that real alcoholics lack the power to abstain. In most of the first 3rd of the AA big book alcoholism is explained to be an illness. "We alcoholics are people who have lost the ability to control our drinking." Most real alcoholics can't not drink no matter what for very long. During these intervals of trying to abstain on their own will power they usually feel quite miserable suffering from untreated alcoholism and will eventually drink again. Bills story in the AA book is a classic example. He tried several times to stay sober himself but could not until he started putting the principles of the Oxford group in his life, principles which he later incorporated in to the 12 steps. 

2. Just don't drink even if your ass falls off.
  Same as above.

3. Don't worry about working the program right away. Just keep coming back and the program will work you.
   This is just down right confusing. Exactly how will the program work you? How can the 12 steps work a person? This is confusing and no where in our literature is anything like this mentioned. It really doesn't make sense. Several statements in the Big Book encourage taking the steps as soon as one can and as thoroughly as one can. "Rarely have we seen a person fail who has throughly followed our path." "Next we launched out on a vigorous course of action"

Here is a link to a web site that has many more of these party lines listed and how they are contradictory to the AA program. Most of them I agree with.

http://nwarkaa.org/aintinthebook.htm

Friday, June 24, 2016

11th Step Morning Meditation Short Guide Quick Reference

Here is a short "how to" guide for AA's 11th step morning meditation. 


Here I hope to provide the 11th step morning meditation instructions in a short and easy to follow guide that can be used each morning.

  1. Pray: God I humbly ask you to direct my thinking. Please divorce my thinking from self pity, dishonest and self seeking motives.
  2. Think about your plans for the day: Make a mental or written to do list of your plans and think about anyone you may meet, speak with or deal with. Think about how God would like you to be with them. Think about how you will act today as a person who has turned their will and life over to the care of a loving and kind Higher Power. What will you say? How will you act? What will you do now that you are putting the spiritual principles of AA in your life? How will you apply love, tolerance, kindness, forgiveness and patience to events and relations with others throughout the day?
  3. If you have uncertainty or indecision about what to do or how to be in a situation today: Pray. Ask God for ideas or intuition about how to handle or deal with the situation you have uncertainty or indecision about. Sample prayer. God I don't know what to do today. I don't know how to handle (fill in the blank) Please calm my busy thinking, please help me decide what I should do today or how I should be. I humbly ask for your inspiration. I know I should not be running my life my way. Please show me your way. You may find that after this prayer you get some "God ideas" or "divine inspiration". The book says with practice we will get better at it and gain more knowledge of Gods will for us . God ideas and divine inspiration, in my experience, are thoughts of how to apply kindness, patience, tolerance, love and good will toward others.
  4. When finished say the closing prayer: God, please show me all through the day what my next step should be. Please give me whatever I need to take care of such problems. I especially ask you for freedom from self will. God I humbly ask you what I can do for other alcoholics still sick. (pg 164)
  5. Say prayers of your choice: Suggested prayers are the 11th step prayer, 3rd step prayer (pg. 63 AA book) and any other prayers you choose. 
  6. Remember to pray all throughout the day. Big book: As we go through the day we pause, when agitated or doubtful, and ask for the right thought or action. We constantly remind ourselves we are no longer running the show, humbly saying to ourselves many times each day “Thy will be done.’’


Click here for an indepth break down of the 11th step morning meditation taken from the AA Big Book

Click here for a breakdown of evening review portion of the 11th step from the AA Big Book.


For the TSGO of AA group online please visit:

https://aathailand.info



(c) 2016 BringTheHope 
excerpts from AA book under free use policy.


Saturday, June 18, 2016

Questions for me as a long timer.

Recently I've had the pleasure of meeting a like minded AA online as we share common friendships in AA on Facebook. She is writing an article for The Grapevine and asked that I help in answering some questions. Here in this post are the questions and my answers.


1. What does Singleness of purpose mean to you.   

I find that AA's singleness of purpose is outlined in our literature through traditions 3 and 5, especially the long form of tradition 3 which states "Our membership ought to include all who suffer from alcoholism. Hence we may refuse none who wish to recover." So, in my view it's not really a matter of what it means to me, but that I follow the traditions in an effort to help the fellowship survive. I feel the best I can do is to follow those traditions by how I behave in meetings and what I do to help new alcoholics recover. To me it is both traditions which I should follow to ensure that AA keeps it's one simple purpose;  to help the alcoholic still suffering from alcoholism as defined in the text for our society, the book "Alcoholics Anonymous".  AA's primary purpose is to be kept simple. Over the years I have learned that the more I study AA the more I find out the program of AA is simple. Sometimes it takes courage to carry out the work, but the ideas are simple.  "God does not make to hard a terms for those who seek him"(pg46 AA)


I think Bill W. said it best:


Our first duty, as a society, is to insure our own survival. Therefore we have to avoid distractions and multi-purpose activity. An AA group, as such, cannot take on all the personal problems of its members,  let alone the problems of the whole world.

Sobriety -- freedom from alcohol -- through the teaching and practice of the Twelve Steps, is the sole purpose of an AA group. Groups have repeatedly tried other activities and they have always failed. It has also been learned that there is no possible way to make non-alcoholics into AA members. We have to confine our membership to alcoholics and we have to confine our AA groups to a single purpose.  If we don't stick to these principles, we shall almost surely collapse. And if we collapse, we cannot help anyone.

So in my opinion what singleness of purpose means to me doesn't really matter, it's that as a member of AA that I learn the tradition and follow that tradition which is important.


Excerpt from the Grapevine Vol. 50, No.2 / April-May 2004
Singleness of Purpose:

On the face of  it,  the  idea  is  simplicity  itself.
Traditions  Three  and  Five  state  it  clearly:  “The  only
requirement  for  membership  is  a  desire  to  stop  drink-
ing.”  “Each  group  has  but  one  primary  purpose  –  to
carry its message to the alcoholic who still suffers.” A.A.
is for alcoholics and people who think they might have a
drinking  problem,  and  as  a  Fellowship  we  do  one  thing
only  –  share  our  program  of  recovery.

2. How many Home Groups do you have, and why?
   I have one home group although I don’t really think of it as such.
 My group has daily meetings that I regularly attend and where I hold the service positions, treasurer and chairperson. This group has core members who use the Big Book and 12 and 12 regularly in meetings which is primarily why I like it.  My personal opinion is that there is perhaps too much emphasis on ideas like having a home group without really outlining what a good home group is. New commers may be better served by being urged to find groups where real alcoholics have recovered from alcoholism through practice of the 12 steps. A group with real alcoholic members who have recovered through practicing the 12 steps best carries the message of Alcoholics Anonymous. Over the years I have come to know this message is quite simple; recovery from alcoholism through a spiritual awakening brought about by doing the 12 steps and continued practice of them in ones everyday life.

3. Do you serve in general service? And if so what are you currently serving as?

 I do not currently have a general service position but have been a GSR in the past.

4. Do you feel the Lords Prayer is appropriate in AA meetings.

        Yes, it is a prayer which at first I had a difficulty with but in time grew to embrace. There are many prayers from religion which I can adopt to enhance my relationship with God as I understand him. I am not a Christian or for that matter a religious man but appreciate the content of the Lords Prayer. One great prayer which has a religious origin is the 11th step prayer or more widely known as the Prayer of Saint Francis. It is by far my favorite prayer as it, to me, sums up how I ought to be in Gods world practicing the program of AA. The 3rd step prayer also sounds very religious but is a good prayer which outlines the intent of the 3rd step. With good guidance through quality sponsorship new alcohlics are taught the meaning of these prayers and the reason they are used. In this way they can get past any prejudices they may have due to the fact some of them have religious origins

5. What is your sobriety date?

     March 13th 1993

6. Why do you still go to meetings?

   To carry the message to the alcoholic still suffering and in doing so continue to practice the 12th step and 3rd step. In doing the 12th step I continue to turn my will and my life over to the care of God through the action of helping alcoholics still suffering.
      I also enjoy the friends and people I've met over the years; the social aspect of the fellowship. It's a joy now to be a part of the fellowship as I can be of service and watch others recover and give back what I have been so freely given.

Thursday, June 16, 2016

Can drug addicts without a drinking problem attend AA meetings?

My short opinion is yes they can in open meetings as observers but there are plenty of other A groups for problems other than alcoholism. In closed meetings only people who desire recovery from alcoholism ought to attend because new alcoholics that don't have drug histories will have trouble identifying with drug addiction which can be quite different than alcoholism. The focus is effectiveness of AA. AA addresses one problem, alcoholism. Amongst new attendees who use both drugs and alcohol, as well as an unfortunate amount of drug counselors there exists an attitude that drug addiction and alcoholism are same thing. According to AA they are not and in my experience they are not. There are quite a few things different about addiction to alcohol as opposed to addiction to heroin or cocaine.

I will say this. AA does have a singleness of purpose. And for good reason. The short form of the 3rd tradition states "a desire to stop drinking" However the long form states "Our membership ought to include all who suffer from alcoholism. Hence we may refuse none who wish to recover." So, what I see here is the short form being a summary and the long form being a more in depth explanation which states "all who suffer from alcoholism" The big book is pretty plain about it's description of alcoholism. Loss of control - a two fold disease of body and mind. Complete inability to control drinking using will power. There are plenty of other A groups for people who have problems other than alcohol. Let AA be for alcoholics. (I am an addict too but got sober and clean in AA and don't announce myself as an addict) The good news is there are groups who have charters and meeting introductions that plainly state that their group is for alcoholics or people who think they have a problem with alcohol. They invite others to stay and happily direct them to other A groups after the meeting. If AA fellowship becomes a catch all for any problem under the sun the real alcoholic may find it very difficult to identify, never get the chance at recovery and pay the ultimate price. Groups should make an effort to read literature and practice the traditions in meetings. AA is not as effective if the fellowship becomes a vehicle for those who wish to attend meetings as a social vehicle, or to make friends, for self help, sex addiction, drug addiction etc... It's too bad but I see a lot of that.

Thoughts on strong AA fellowship groups and meetings.

     In my humble opinion to be the most effective at carrying the message of recovery from alcoholism through doing the 12 steps, current core members of a fellowship group ought to be what our literature defines as "real" alcoholics. Also in my opinion it is best that they have also recovered through practicing the 12 steps as outlined in the book Alcoholics Anonymous and 12 steps and 12 traditions book.

(Real alcoholic members being people who have alcoholism as described in the the doctors opinion and first 1/3 of the 164 pages of the book.)

     It is the matter of identification that is crucial. How the problem of mind and body manifests in an individuals drinking history. The stories about the inability to stop once starting drinking, the inability to control it. Not being able to stop permanently even when honestly wanting to ... the stories of "real" alcoholics help a new real alcoholic do his 1st step which is crucial in surrendering and getting the motivation to carry on with the rest of the steps to get a spiritual awakening and a conscious contact with a HP. This giving recovery through removal of the obsession by reliance on God. People who attend meetings that are only hard drinkers or have problems other than alcoholism do not have the experience and stories of a real alcoholic and in my opinion can't be nearly as effective at helping a new real alcoholic identify. "All alcoholics are drunks but not all drunks are alcoholics" Pg 20-21 of the big book goes more indepth into this fact they had found. In my opinion a "healthy" AA group ought to have core members who are real alcoholics and are actively putting the 12 steps in their lives and in doing so realize they need to carry "the message of recovery through doing the steps" to other alcoholics. I am not saying we ought to sus out who is a real alcoholic and who isn't but a strong group ought to have core real alcoholic members who have a consistent and big book originated message of recovery through doing the steps.

Friday, April 15, 2016

More new commers than ever before?

I have been living in Thailand the last year or so and have been seeing several new people showing up to the meetings here in Bangkok.
It may be a trend in our society that is driving people to drink and use drugs in ever increasing numbers.  ( perhaps also and increase in using other vices) As a result a greater number of people may be hitting lows and searching for recovery. I wonder if there are any studies or existing statistics that show an increase per capita of American people using psycho pharmaceuticals or self medicating with drugs and alcohol. Living abroad and tuning into USA TV now and again has given me a fresh perspective on at least TV advertising trends and what is being broadcast to the American public. One thing I've noticed. I had tuned into the USA CNN here and there seems to be an extraoridinary number of drug commercials urging people to be there "own advocate" and suggesting people to ask their doctors about these new drugs. It wasn't this way until perhaps about 10 years ago that I can recall. I would hope some studies are being done.

The media exists to serve it's sponsors and generate advertising revenue. As a result a huge emphasis on consuming as being the way to happiness is always urged. A better car, a better looking partner, a bigger and better furnished house, tastier and more expensive food is advertised as the way to happiness. I saw an airline commercial today that's used a music jingle singing "It's all about you". I had to chuckle, when it was all about me I almost died. Glad we in AA have a program that shows a path to happiness as being of service to God and others. -- The simple and practical 12 step program of recovery -- a design for living.

Thursday, January 21, 2016

The 12 step practical program of action and faith without works is dead.

To be vital, faith must be accompanied by self sacrifice and unselfish, constructive action.  

( Big Book, Working With Others, p.94  )

As the years go by and I try to persist in understanding and practicing the program of AA it's all become less and less complicated and surprisingly simple.

The fellowship at large tends to get inundated with many ideas and rhetoric from many sources. Those sources include the latest from detox, treatment and rehabilitation centers which tend to do nothing more than urge their clients to go to meetings after their stay. They do not, in my experience do any intensive study of the AA program but tend to be more or less safe places to dry out and learn about addiction or alcoholism "as they see it" and how the medical community understands it.

The program of AA however is, at it's core, a spiritual program of action. A way to seek and establish a relationship with a Higher Power to recover ; recovery through abstaining from alcohol and living life by new principles, spiritual principles. There is some confusion by many as to what the AA program actually is. Many believe it to be the meetings and the fellowship, but I have found through study of the literature that this is not the case at all. To be effective the program ought not be confused with the fellowship.  The program is simply the 12 steps. The AA book "12 steps and 12 traditions" has one of my favorite statements about the AA 12 step program of recovery.

AA's Twelve steps are a group of principles, spiritual in their nature, which, if practiced as a way of life, can expel the obsession to drink and enable the sufferer to become happily and usefully whole.
 

- From The Twelve Steps and Twelve Traditions, page 15.



Friday, December 4, 2015

My experience with selfishness and self-centeredness and my alcoholism.


Selfishness, self-centeredness! That, we think, is the root of our troubles. (AA Big Book, pg 62)

This extreme self consciousness, sensitivity to what others think of me is a feature of my alcoholism. At it's core is nothing short of me being very self centered. I believe that is what AA teaches us. Doing the steps relieved me of this self centeredness but didn't completely erase it.. All my character defects stem from this selfishness and self centeredness. Restless, irritable and discontent. To go to a party or socialize with people I had to have something, drinks, drugs etc.. Then "I could come out and play". Today going to a social event is not a daunting task like it used to be. I know how to be as I have learned with Gods help how to not focus on me but focus on others. This comes in the form of asking questions, getting to know people and showing concern for others. What I can bring to the party to contribute, not what I can get. I try not to go all out to impress people with how much I know or dominate the conversation but try to have interest in what other people are doing and what others are saying .. listening! This has been a learned thing for me. Some think being judgemental is an offensive against what I think people might think of me. I am not sure if being judgemental has been my attempt to fight back about what others "might" be thinking of me, it's a good idea to ponder though. God knows I do way to much of it. Just might be!

Sunday, October 25, 2015

Getting it or not getting it in AA. Is there really such a thing as "getting it" in AA?

My experience is that there is no "getting it" or "not getting it" There are people who either do the program or not do the program. (here are the steps we took which are suggested as a program of recovery) There are alcoholics who thoroughly follow our path (do the steps and recover) and there are alcoholics that only come to meetings and do not apply the program (12 steps). "Rarely have we seen a person fail who has thoroughly followed our path" I have never seen an alcoholic who thoroughly does all the 12 steps and continues practising the steps fail to recover.

Sunday, October 4, 2015

The 11th step prayer (The Prayer of St.Francis of Assisi )

The Prayer of St.Francis of Assisi is affectionately known as The Eleventh Step Prayer as it appears in the book "12 Steps and 12 Traditions" in the reading for the eleventh step.
According to this website dedicated to St.Francis, this prayer was almost certainly not written by him. It apparently dates from the early part of the 20th century, and its author is unknown. It was found in Normandy in 1915, written on the back of a holy card of St. Francis. The version that follows is from the "12 Steps and 12 Traditions" book page 99 and differs from the original.

Lord, make me a channel of thy peace!
That where there is hatred,
I may bring love.
That where there is wrong,
I may bring the spirit of forgiveness.
That where there is discord,
I may bring harmony.
That where there is error,
I may bring truth.
That where there is doubt,
I may bring faith.
That where there is despair,
I may bring hope.
That where there are shadows,
I may bring light.
That where there is sadness,
I may bring joy.
Lord, grant that I may seek rather to comfort,
than to be comforted.
To understand,
than to be understood.
To love,
than to be loved.
For it is by self-forgetting that one finds.
It is by forgiving that one is forgiven.
It is by dying that one awakens to eternal life.

Saturday, October 25, 2014

Getting rid of self. Is it ever entirely possible to rid ourselves of self?

This has been a question that's come up for me from time to time. Can I ever entirely "rid" myself of self? The books says there often "seems" no way of entirely getting rid of self without his aid. Are they implying that I could be entirely rid of self? 

In my opinion, (and let me stress this is my personal opinion), defects of character are never really fully removed as they come from self (or ego) and self is part of what makes me human. I have found that it is in striving toward selflessness that connection with a higher power is found. Minimizing the manifestation of character defects (with help from a God) toward selflessness is the best I can hope for. It is in striving to align my will (self) with the will of a good and kind Higher Power that I receive some peace, serenity and relief from the hopeless state of mind and body called Alcoholism.


The Big Book:

"So our troubles, we think, are basically of our own making. They arise out of ourselves, and the alcoholic is an extreme example of self-will run riot, though he usually doesn't think so. Above everything, we alcoholics must be rid of this selfishness. We must, or it kills us! God makes that possible. And there often seems no way of entirely getting rid of self without His aid."


I don't think that they are implying that we can entirely be rid of self, but they are saying that God has the power and if anyone could entirely rid us of self God could.

Please chime in with your opinions or views. Curious as to what other AA's think about being rid of self. Cheers from Bring the Hope!

Tuesday, February 25, 2014

Alcoholics Anonymous Explained. A brief explanation of how the program of AA works.


This is a summary of how the program of AA works. Please note that the AA program and the AA fellowship are two different things. AA meetings are a fellowship of people. A combination of those "on the program of AA" who share their experience of  applying it to their lives to those still suffering alcoholics seeking help. The program of AA is the 12 step practical program of action found within the first 164 pages of the book Alcoholics Anonymous. The fellowship of AA was originally a forum for sharing, teaching and discussion of the program. The fellowship ideally carries the message of recovery through practice, discussion and teaching of the program - members sharing their experience, strength and hope of the program with other members. While attendance of the fellowship is widely regarded as part of practicing the program it should not be mistaken for the program itself.


Description and history of the AA fellowship is beyond the scope of this essay. More information can be found at http://aa.org


The program of AA explained:

The problem: Alcoholism - a illness that has two parts. An allergy of the body coupled with an obsession of the mind. AA states “alcoholics are powerless over alcohol”. “We alcoholics are men and women who have lost the ability to CONTROL our drinking”. (Page 30 Alcoholics Anonymous)

a) Allergy of the body - also described as a physical allergy to alcohol.
A person with alcoholism lacks the ability to control the amount they take once they start drinking. A physical craving develops after one or two drinks which overwhelms even a strong desire to moderate or stop and they keep on drinking. This craving happens only in people with alcoholism and is an abnormal reaction to alcohol. The medical explanation of this is that an alcoholics body metabolizes alcohol "improperly" and slightly different than a non-alcoholic. This difference sets up a craving in alcoholics AFTER they start to drink. This is why AA's benefactor Dr. W. D. Silkworth describes it is an allergy. Alcoholics have an abnormal reaction (same as an allergy) to alcohol. When non-alcoholics drink their reaction is normal, they enjoy one or two drinks and nothing bad happens. When real alcoholics have even a couple of drinks they can’t help but to continue drinking. They are compelled to keep drinking by a physical craving which is an abnormal reaction to alcohol. Alcoholics are allergic to alcohol in much the same way a person may be allergic to peanuts, but instead of  developing a rash they develop this physical craving to keep drinking. This is described as the "phenomenon of craving" (Doctors opinion chapter in the AA book)

b) Obsession of the mind - also described as a mental obsession.
Even when sincerely wanting to, a *real alcoholic will find he or she cannot quit entirely. They lack the ability using will power. Real alcoholics cannot abstain from alcohol for any lasting and contented period of time even when honestly wanting to. Alcoholics have an alcoholic mind which dooms them to make the mistake of the first drink over and over again. When sincerely not wanting to drink, they might stop and be able to stay sober for awhile, but eventually go back to it with the same undesired consequences.

To summarize about alcoholics. They are:
a) Powerless to control how much they drink once they start. (this is the Physical Allergy)
b) Powerless to quit drinking entirely even when honestly wanting to. (this is the Mental Obsession)

A person with alcoholism is powerless to “fix” or relieve the problem themselves. They find they cannot completely abstain even though many are certain they must. Many alcoholics tell themselves over and over things like ”This time it's for good” or “I'm never going back to it” Only to return days, weeks or months later with the same or more pain and suffering. AA says: “They’ve lost the power of choice in drink” (AA Big Book page 24) Real Alcoholics have no control over how much they take once they start. First their alcoholic mind “tricks” or “fools” them into taking the first drink or they suffer so much from the symptons* of untreated alcoholism that they return to the only solution they know, alcohol. Then after that first drink they drink to inebriation due to the physical allergy. (see The Dr.s Opinion and More About Alcoholism in the AA Big Book Chap 3. for an in depth explanation and examples)

*Symptoms of untreated alcoholism can be depression, anxiety, worry, remorse, resentment, anger etc.

"They are restless, irritable and discontented, unless they can again experience the sense of ease and comfort which comes at once by taking a few drinks-drinks which they see others taking with impunity". The Doctors Opinion Alcoholics Anonymous

The Solution:
AA was given their solution to alcoholism by the late great psychiatrist Dr. Carl Jung
Jung had studied alcoholics who had recovered by what he called a “spiritual experience”. This spiritual experience, also called a spiritual awakening by AA, is a connection with a Higher Power (or God, Universal Mind, Power Greater) strong enough to give lasting relief from alcoholism. This relief is in the form of permanent abstinence from alcohol. Alcoholics return to sanity where before they repeated, over and over, the insane mistake of the first drink. AA says “we have not even sworn off. Instead the problem has been removed”. (pg. 85 Alcoholics Anonymous) This happens through power from a "God" of ones own understanding. Where alcoholics had been powerless over alcohol they find power from a God of their own understanding which allows them to think sanely concerning alcohol and thus abstain.

Note: AA does not affiliate with any religion. Is not a Christian, Buddist, Muslim, Hindu or other religious movement. AA is simply a spiritual program urging people looking for recovery to seek a "Power Greater" than oneself.

What to do – The 12 steps. A practical program of action for recovery:
Now that we know AA’s solution is a spiritual awakening the question becomes - How would an alcoholic seeking recovery get one?

AA borrowed spiritual ideas from a movement called the Oxford group. The Oxford group was an early 20th century non-denominational religious movement started by Lutheran Minister Frank N. D. Buchman. These ideas were borrowed to create what we now know as the Twelve Steps. By taking the 12 steps a person can get the desired spiritual awakening thus receiving relief and recovery from alcoholism. That relief and recovery is in the form of continued and permanent abstinence from alcohol and a useful, whole and contented life.

Note:
Alcoholics Anonymous does not offer a cure for alcoholism. What AA does offer is lasting abstinence from alcohol and a design for living through contact with a Higher Power. The Twelve Steps are a set of directions which when followed result in a spiritual awakening giving permanent and lasting recovery from alcoholism. Alcoholics on the program become recovered from alcoholism.

* The term real alcoholics is used through out the book Alcoholics Anonymous. This term is used to make the distinction between alcoholics and heavy drinkers. Heavy drinkers have the ability to stop or moderate on their own willpower. Real alcoholics lack the willpower to quit entirely even when honestly wanting to.

The AA 12 steps
Here are the steps we took, which are suggested as a program of recovery:
1. We admitted we were powerless over alcohol - that our lives had become unmanageable.
2. Came to believe that a Power greater than ourselves could restore us to sanity.
3. Made a decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of God as we understood Him.
4. Made a searching and fearless moral inventory of ourselves.
5. Admitted to God, to ourselves, and to another human being the exact nature of our wrongs.
6. Were entirely ready to have God remove all these defects of character.
7. Humbly asked Him to remove our shortcomings.
8. Made a list of all persons we had harmed, and be came willing to make amends to them all.
9. Made direct amends to such people wherever possible, except when to do so would injure them or others.
10. Continued to take personal inventory and when we were wrong promptly admitted it.
11. Sought through prayer and meditation to improve our conscious contact with God as we understood Him, praying
only for knowledge of His will for us and the power to carry that out.
12. Having had a spiritual awakening as the result of these steps, we tried to carry this message to alcoholics, and to practice these principles in all our affairs.

Alcoholics Anonymous Book excerpts used under AA fair use policy
all other text (c) 2013 Bring Thehope

Sunday, June 30, 2013

AA is not a selfish program. It is a selfless program.

       If you go to enough meetings and know the Big Book of AA you'll find there is quite a lot of mis-information going around in the fellowship. One example is the idea that AA is a selfish program. This could not be farther from the truth.  First of all let's make sure we understand what the AA program actually is. It's read at every meeting but in my experience few of us really understand it. "Here are the steps we took which are suggested as a program of recovery" So the AA program is the 12 steps, nothing less, nothing more. So,  saying that AA is a selfish program is just plain wrong.  Neither the AA program (the 12 steps) or the AA fellowship are selfish. The AA fellowship is an altruistic movement - people helping people. And the 12 steps (our program) are a set of instructions which when followed allows the sufferer to have a normal life through recovery from alcoholism. Following the 12 steps changes a person and steers them away from selfishness toward selflessness - more concern for others. This is the essence of AA spirituality and this is what brings about a relationship strong enough with a God of ones own understanding that gives recovery from alcoholism.

If you ask people who share this "party line" of AA being a selfish program you'll get many opinions as to what the phrase actually means. It's nothing more than another source of confusion; especially for newcomers. It's a shame but I believe there are too many people in the fellowship sharing everything under the sun except how to recover from alcoholism by practicing the 12 steps. Anything I say in meeting shouldn't have to have too much further explanation. Those that share this idea that AA is a selfish program may find they have to explain it quite a bit more if an inquisitive newcomer gets up enough courage to ask. Underneath this phrase lies a world of different opinions as to it's meaning.  Some will say that it means those looking for recovery ought to put it first above everything. That idea is great and absolutely the AA program so why not just say that instead?

       Misleading catch phrases, ideas and information that do not line up with the program are an unfortunate occurrence in today's fellowship. Catch phrases and party lines spread like gossip because they "sound good" and are catchy, but sometimes wind up contradicting the true program of AA entirely. Those of us who have studied the book conclude the opposite. That AA is a SELFLESS program. We are to try to rid ourselves of self centeredness and selfishness through a relationship with a Higher Power if we are to recover.

      The word selfish occurs 13 times in the AA text. In all cases it is looked on as a NEGATIVE feature of character. Here are examples. The idea that AA is a selfish program is not once found in the text. It is a dangerous AA fellowship party line that I suspect is doing more harm than good. Here are some examples.

... selfishness.   BB How It Works, p.62  
Above everything, we alcoholics must be rid of this selfishness

 1.  He is often perfectly sensible and well balanced concerning everything except liquor, but in that respect he is incredibly dishonest and selfish.


2.
... selfish and dishonest.   BB How It Works, p.61  
On the other hand, he may be mean, egotistical, selfish and dishonest.


3.
... selfish and foolish, I had been seriously ...   BB Bill's Story, p.7  
Best of all, I met a kind doctor who explained that though certainly selfish and foolish, I had been seriously ill, bodily and mentally.


4.
Selfish and inconsiderate habits have kept the ...   BB Into Action, p.82  
Selfish and inconsiderate habits have kept the home in turmoil.


5.
... selfish, dishonest or afraid?   BB Into Action, p.86  
Were we resentful, selfish, dishonest or afraid?


6.
... selfish, dishonest, or inconsiderate?   BB How It Works, p.69  
Where had we been selfish, dishonest, or inconsiderate?


7.
... selfish, dishonest, self-seeking and frightened?   BB How It Works, p.67  
Where had we been selfish, dishonest, self-seeking and frightened?


8.
... selfish ends.   BB Into Action, p.87  
We are careful never to pray for our own selfish ends.


9.
... selfish of water or bread.   12&12 Tradition One, p.131  
None might become selfish of water or bread.


10.
... selfish or not?   BB How It Works, p.69  
We subjected each relation to this test -- was it selfish or not?


11.
... selfish pursuit of the sex relation damage ...   12&12 Step Four, p.50  
When, and how, and in just what instances did my selfish pursuit of the sex relation damage other people and me?


12.
... selfish things and gain interest in our ...   BB Into Action, p.84  
We will lose interest in selfish things and gain interest in our fellows.


13.
... selfish, we may excite jealousy, misery, and ...   12&12 Step Eight, p.80  
If our sex conduct is selfish, we may excite jealousy, misery, and a strong desire to retaliate in kind.

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Monday, March 26, 2012

AA Morning Meditation Big Book pages 86,87 and 88 explained. Step 11


Part 2. Morning Prayer and Meditation


Given we know that the AA program is contained in the first 164 pages of the Big Book ( with further good information in the step essays of the 12 steps and 12 traditions book ) let's now follow the 2nd half of the prayer and meditation instructions found on pages 86, 87 and 88 of the book "Alcoholics Anonymous"

Big Book Pg 86:

On awakening let us think about the twenty-four hours ahead. We consider our plans for the day. Before we begin, we ask God to direct our thinking, especially asking that it be divorced from self-pity, dishonest or self-seeking motives. Under these conditions we can employ our mental faculties with assurance, for after all God gave us brains to use. Our thought-life will be placed on a much higher plane when our thinking is cleared of wrong motives.

The Big Book authors (the first 100 alcoholics) tell us that each morning they consider their plans for the day. Before doing so they say a prayer and ask God to direct their thinking. A morning meditation makes a lot of sense for people trying to live a spiritual life. A very simple and practical way to start each day for people seeking and developing a conscience contact with a Higher Power. In the ABC's we read at each meeting it says (b) That probably no human power could have relieved our alcoholism. (c) That God could and would if he were sought. So the morning meditation is a daily exercise to seek God's guidance and advice for the day. In doing this we continue to "work" the program and practice spirituality throughout the day.

Let's break it down and see what we should do. As always with the Big Book, if they do it, we should do it. They say that they "consider their plans for the day" and before they begin they say a prayer. So that’s what we will do - say a prayer and then consider our plans for the day.

Let's take it right out of the book and say the same prayer they do.

God, I humbly ask you to direct my thinking. Please divorce my thinking from self pity, dishonest and self seeking motives.

A simple prayer isn't it? That's all they say they do. It's not complex at all. AA is a simple and practical program. Wonderful news for those of us who consider ourselves "complex" people.

Now having asked God to set our minds to good direction let's do what they do next.

2) We now think about our day and plans for it: (consider our plans for the day)

Since we are considering our plans for the day what I like to do is to make a mental or written "to do" list. I think about what I am going to do today and write a list. It's up to you, you can think about it or write it down, as long as you are "considering your day".

Many of us have jobs and work. I find that for work days a reminder that I should be "part of the team" and a worker among workers is a good idea. Things like "I'm going to talk low and act courteously" are great. I'm going to try and be kind toward all. (You might notice this is from the evening meditation). What we want to do is set our selves to try and do Gods will - not ours for the day.

What ever we do we want it to be with good motives. My opinion is that a loving Higher Power wants me to try to be friendly, kind, patient and tolerant. The God I've gotten to know does not want me to be greedy, selfish or dishonest. I have found that the God I know is love and kindness. The books says "love and tolerance of others is our code". (last paragraph pg 84) so I need to try and "live the code".

Something I have been doing lately (on advice from my sponsor) is to try to think about who I might be dealing with or talking to that day. I try to contemplate how I will be with that person. I think about the kind of attitude God would want me to have when talking with that person. For instance, I usually have sponsee's to talk to. I try to remind myself to be patient and tolerant and "put myself in their shoes" during the conversation. If it's someone I am doing business with I try to remember to listen more than talk. If I am going to an AA meeting I remind myself to be just a "member among members" and go in the spirit of service to others. I will try to picture in my minds eye the meeting with the person or persons for that day and the best way to be with them in Gods world. He is the director, I am the actor and I need to act as he would have me act. I need to try my best to live like God wants me to -  selfless, tolerant, patient and of service to others. In this way I can be assured I am doing his will, not mine.

Let's have a look at what the book says next.

In thinking about our day we may face indecision. We may not be able to determine which course to take. Here we ask God for inspiration, an intuitive thought or a decision. We relax and take it easy. We don’t struggle. We are often surprised how the right answers come after we have tried this for a while.

This portion of the meditation exercise is advice for alcoholics who might have indecision about what to do with their day.

Many of us may have a lot going on in our minds in the morning. We may have the habit of getting out of bed and drinking some strong coffee to get the wheels turning in our heads. Many alcoholics tend to think too much and can't decide what to do with a day when first trying this exercise. Some of us might not have jobs in early sobriety, are retired, or lucky enough to be rich with a lot of time on our hands. AA also has directions for life situations like these! Pretty cool huh? I think they knew the kind of people they were writing for. They don't leave too much to guess about.

Let's find out what the book says to do if we feel "indecision" - the feeling of not knowing what to do about something or having too much free time and not knowing what to do with it. By now we probably have a pretty good idea what AA might suggest to do about these kinds of problems . Again, it simply says we go to God for the answers. How do we do this? Well prayer again of course!

The big book states it:
Here we ask God for inspiration, an intuitive thought or a decision.

So we make a prayer. Something like the example below is fine. You can use this one or make up your own, just as long as the general idea is there. Your God will know what your talking about right? It could be something about a specific problem your having. An issue with someone or just a general feeling of doubt about what to do today. Any kind of stressful indecision or bad feelings that come up, just pray for help.

Prayer example
"God I don't know what to do today. I don't how to handle (xxxxx) Please calm my busy thinking, please help me decide what I should do today. Please give me your inspiration. I know I should not be running my life (third step idea here), please show me the way"

With practice, many AA's devoted to the program in the book find that they get some God ideas and feel focused right after prayer like this. It works, it really does, with daily effort on our part. This idea is stated in the next paragraph.

We relax and take it easy. We don’t struggle. We are often surprised how the right answers come after we have tried this for a while. What used to be the hunch or the occasional inspira­tion gradually becomes a working part of the mind. Being still inexperienced and having just made con­scious contact with God, it is not probable that we are going to be inspired at all times. We might pay for this presumption in all sorts of absurd actions and ideas. Nevertheless, we find that our thinking will, as time passes, be more and more on the plane of in­spiration. We come to rely upon it.

The big book authors are telling us that with practice and repeating the exercise our thinking with be more on the "plane of inspiration" or more aligned with Gods will. We get advice here to watch out that we don't think our ideas are actually Gods. A good way to check is to just ask yourself this. Is the thought I just had good, kind or loving? Is this idea I have the kind of thing a loving Higher Power might suggest? You might think God told you to stand up and confront or even fight with someone, making some kind of trouble, revenge, retribution or the like. Let your conscience be your guide. We all know what is good in our hearts. A kind and loving God (in my opinion) doesn't want me fighting and confronting others. You can also ask yourself. " Am I trying to get "MY WAY" again or am I letting the chips fall as they may and surrendering the situation to God? With practice we start seeing where our thinking ends and Gods thinking begins. Gods thinking seems to always be for goodness, kindness, tolerance and getting along with all. Live and Let Live. Trying to be a kind, tolerant, patient and understanding person is the essence of AA spirituality.

Next we close out the exercise. Let's go back to the Big Book and see what it says they do. Again, if they do it we should do it to if we are to "thoroughly follow their path"

We usually conclude the period of meditation with a prayer that we be shown all through the day what our next step is to be, that we be given whatever we need to take care of such problems.  

The next thing the big book authors say they do is "conclude the period of meditation with a prayer" What is the prayer? Well it is right here in the paragraph above. We can just re-word it for us. This is how I like to re-word it.

God, please show me all through the day what my next step should be. Please give me whatever I need to take care of not knowing what to do next. Please I humbly ask you to give me freedom from self will. 

Again, I am just using the info from the big book and doing what they do. Also we can include and say other prayers. I like to say the 11 step prayer from the 12 and 12. It is a beautiful prayer. Prayers of your choice are a really good idea too. Any kind of prayer that does not have selfish ends is a good prayer.  Let's look at what it says next.


We ask especially for freedom from self-will, and are careful to make no request for ourselves only. We may ask for ourselves, however, if others will be helped. We are careful never to pray for our own selfish ends. Many of us have wasted a lot of time doing that and it doesn’t work. You can easily see why.

In this paragraph we read that the authors pray for freedom from self will ( like my prayer above) and then they give us some advice about how to pray again. They say they never pray for things for themselves EXCEPT if it might help others. Pretty cool right? We can pray for things for us if they will assist in helping others. Now watch out, we have to be careful with that. For example I'm fairly sure they don’t mean we can pray for things like fast expensive cars because we think it will impress people in AA and they will "want what we have". I think what they mean is we can, for example, pray for work if we don't have it. If we have good work then we can live well and have time to to be of service to others. Things like that are OK because they enable us to have time to be of service to other AA's

The next portion until the end of the chapter is all instruction and advice.

 If circumstances warrant, we ask our wives or friends to join us in morning meditation. If we belong to a religious denomination which requires a definite morning devotion, we attend to that also. If not mem­bers of religious bodies, we sometimes select and memorize a few set prayers which emphasize the principles we have been discussing. There are many helpful books also. Suggestions about these may be obtained from one’s priest, minister, or rabbi. Be quick to see where religious people are right. 

Finally we get some instruction about how to pray throughout the day. Great stuff as we are trying to practice the AA way of life - a spiritual way of life.

As we go through the day we pause, when agitated or doubtful, and ask for the right thought or action. We constantly remind ourselves we are no longer running the show, humbly saying to ourselves many times each day “Thy will be done.’’ 

So as they suggest, what we do is to pause at any time during the day when we find ourselves angry or doubtful about a situation and ask for the right thought or action. "Ask what" you might be thinking. Ask who? Well God or Higher Power of course. Again it is back to prayer and asking God for help. We try to remind ourselves through a simple prayer said many times all through the day we should try to do Gods will not ours. This is practice of the 3rd step which through earlier study we know is continual life effort. So throughout each day, if we try to "turn it over" by asking for help and willingness to do Gods will, we are truly putting the practical program of AA into our lives.

What I do is try to remember to say this prayer every hour or so, more if I'm having a tough day at work or issues with family etc.. "Thy will, not mine, be done." Some days are better than others. Progress not perfection right? None of us are spiritual giants. We just try the best we can.

Finally the big book authors give us some promises that we can get if we do all the things THEY DO outlined on pages 86,87 and 88. 


We are then in much less danger of excitement, fear, anger, worry, self-pity, or foolish decisions. We become much more efficient. We do not tire so easily, for we are not burning up energy foolishly as we did when we were trying to arrange life to suit ourselves. It works—it really does. We alcoholics are undisciplined. So we let God discipline us in the simple way we have just outlined. But this is not all. There is action and more action. “Faith without works is dead.’’ The next chapter is entirely devoted to Step Twelve

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Monday, February 13, 2012

AA's Evening Meditation pages 86,87 and 88 explained - Step 11

Morning and Evening Meditation - Step 11
From page 86,87 and 88 of the Big Book of Alcoholics Anonymous.


Part 1. Evening Meditation

    Big Book page 86:

    The first paragraph on page 86 gives direct instructions about what to do each evening before bed. This is the 1st part of the 11th step. Here we will break down the paragraph and make clear what the Big Book authors tell us they do.

    Let's look at the first portion of the paragraph.

    Big Book:
    When we retire at night, we constructively review our day. Were we resentful, selfish, dishonest or afraid? Do we owe an apology? Have we kept something to ourselves which should be discussed with another person at once? Were we kind and loving toward all? What could we have done better? Were we thinking of ourselves most of the time? Or were we thinking of what we could do for others, of what we could pack into the stream of life?

    The big book authors state "when we retire at night we constructively review our day". They tell us this is what they do at night. If we are also going to follow the program then we should do what they do. So each evening before bed, we review our day and ask ourselves these questions, one at a time, pausing and giving each some thought.

    Take a few minutes on each one and search out your memories of the day.

    Was I resentful? 

    Was I selfish?

    Was I dishonest?

    Was I afraid?

    Do I owe an apology? 

    Have I kept something to my self that should have been discussed with another person at once?

    Was I kind and loving toward all? 

    What could I have done better? 

    Was I thinking of myself most of the time or was I thinking of what I could do for others, of what I could pack into the stream of life?

    After asking yourself these questions you now have a "days review". A review is like an inventory isn't it? How about that! So what you've just done is a single days inventory and hopefully caught any faults, defects of character or short comings that may have come up. We try our best to practice the 10th step during the day and "when we are wrong promptly admit it" but, of course, we are all human and some days make mistakes and slip up on applying the principals in all our affairs and not promptly admit it when we fall short.  The 11th step evening review is the catch all at the end of the day. Through doing this portion of the 11step we take a final look at where we might have fallen short spiritually. So now you may be asking yourself; now that I have this days review what do I do about it? Well that's just what the Big Book authors tell us after these words of advice.


    But we must be careful not to drift into worry, remorse or morbid reflection, for that would diminish our usefulness to others.

    This portion of the paragraph is advice. Let's take a closer look at what this sentence is saying to us.

    For people that may be prone to depression, self loathing, low self esteem etc. They should be careful to remember none of us is perfect. If you feel like this give yourself a break and keep in mind that with an attitude of worry, remorse, depression or self loathing it is difficult to be helpful or useful to other people. The book  says. "for that would diminish our usefulness to others". The definition of diminish is "lessen" or "make less". Helping others is what the Big Book plainly says is our purpose. " To be of maximum service to God and those about us." It is in this move toward "selflessness" that we seek and know God better and continue to grow our spiritual condition. After all, we are attempting to maintain and grow our spirituality and continue our spiritual experience (Appendix II in the AA Big Book) which gives us relief from our illness each day. (We have a daily reprieve based on being spiritually fit)

    Now after the words of advice we find out what to do with our days review.

    Big Book:
    After making our review we ask God's forgiveness and inquire what corrective measures should be taken.

    Let's look at this sentence. First it simply says that after our review "we ask for Gods forgiveness" So we should just make a prayer asking for forgiveness. I believe it doesn't need to be complicated, God knows our intention. Here's what I usually say.

    Prayer: God please forgive me for my mistakes today, please help me to do better.

    The next sentence states "and inquire what corrective measures should be taken".
    Here we are asked to make another prayer. I say a prayer like this.

    God please show me what to do to avoid these mistakes in the future. I seek your inspiration. Thy will not mine be done.

    Now, let's think about this a minute. The Big Book authors say that they "inquire". Inquire is the same as asking right? So we simply just ask God "what corrective measures should be taken".
    How about that? The Big Book authors suggest we ought to ask God what we should do to correct our mistakes. Doesn't that imply that we might get an answer? Yes it does! So what do we do to get an answer? Here is where the meditation comes in.

    After making the prayer for forgiveness and asking God how to do better, try to relax and stay silent for 10 or 15 minutes. Longer if you feel you have the discipline. Calm your mind and relax to see if you get some kind of answer. This takes practice but many times we find that we get some ideas that aren't our own. Some AA's say they "hear a voice speak" in their minds. You may find you get some ideas which you could honestly say you think didn't come from you, these quite possibly are God inspired. This is what we are looking for. If the ideas are truly good they are probably from God. Use them, try to incorporate them into the next day.


    Some God "idea" examples from my own meditation experience:

    I should relax at work, I take things too seriously and get into fights with co workers because of it. I should try to "Live and let live".

    I should call my sponsor more often and be as truthful as possible.

    I've been neglecting my family, I should make more time for them. Make a few more phone calls to my brothers and sisters.

    I should go to more meetings, not for me, but to help the newcommers.

    I need to try to be a kinder person each day. I've been too pushy and crass with even the cashier at the market.

    I need to cool down behind the wheel and not drive so aggressively. It's messing with my serenity

    I should pray more throughout the day.

    I need to try and focus on being a part of the team at work, rather than trying to go around showing everyone how to do their jobs.

    I need to work the steps again with a good sponsor who knows the book.

    This completes part 1 of the daily meditation. AA Big Book authors also give us instructions about what to do each morning. This will be covered in part 2 here.
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    Friday, March 11, 2011

    A common solution. AA program from the first 164 page of the Big Book.

    After 21 years of sobriety and about 14 devoted to the program in the book I have found out a simple fact. That there is one program, one common solution (bottom of page 17).

    AA fellowship is actually not nearly as effective as it once was. Having been to many thousands of meetings over the years and continuing to attend, it is all too obvious that the message from our basic text, the book Alcoholics Anonymous, is being lost. Unfortunately the message heard these days in many meetings and groups is quite a lot different than the one that was heard in the early days. So much extra and inaccurate information is flooding the fellowship that new, real alcoholics rarely get to hear the simple message of the program found in the book. Many of these non AA ideas come from treatment centers and many are party lines that somehow got started in the fellowship over the years. Many of these one liners go against some of the fundamental ideas found in the Big Book. For instance: "we just don't drink no matter what" and "It's a selfish program" or "I just choose not to drink today".  These are contradictory to the program and don't help real alcoholics recover.

    AA says that real alcoholics cannot control their drinking. That was my experience. I lost control. If I could control it I would not need a program. Any idea or advice that urges self control or using ones own mind to fight the illness is really not AA. AA's say they have lost choice and will power is gone concerning booze.

    For newcomers there are some good tips for not drinking found in the  "Living Sober" book, but this book explicitly starts by stating it does not contain a program of recovery, it simply gives tips for not drinking; hopefully while the alcoholics is doing the steps from the AA book.

    The program is simple, but you'll rarely hear it summarized like this. Here it is in a few bullet points.

    1)The authors of the Big Book, who considered themselves hopeless chronic alcoholics, found they were powerless to sustain abstinence themselves. They could not quit for good and all on their own will power. Nor could they quit using the power of other people. Will power was lost for them.  They lost the choice in drink. No matter what they'd drink again even after honestly trying to stop (see more about alcoholism in the AA book) No doctor or any other human being could help them stop entirely. (probably no human power could have relieved our alcoholism) From the ABC's at the beginning of chapter 5.

    2)Dr. Carl Yung found that once in awhile a hopeless/chronic alcoholic would “miraculously” recover and stay sober through a "pyschic change", "spiritual awakening" or a "connection with a Higher Power". He saw these happenings as a phenomenon. A kind of freak occurrence for one out of many hundreds of hopeless drunks.
     So AA's solution is just that. Achieve a spiritual awakening and build a relationship with a Higher Power to recover from the illness. (Bill W. never chose to use the word disease)

    3)From the Oxford groups it was found that following a set of instructions (the tenets they were called at that time) could bring about this needed psychic change or “spiritual awakening”. An alcoholic could do these things ( follow the directions) and achieve this “miracle” or "gift" of sustained abstinence and serenity from a Higher Power. 

    Bill W. of course got the basic idea for the steps from the tenets of the Oxford groups and thus the 12 steps were born;  a way out from alcoholism. Bill W. borrowed the ideas of the tenets and "customized" them into the 12 steps. The concepts of the steps were not purely original. Bill W. got them from the Oxford group tenets.

    That's it in a nutshell, and all this can be found within the first 164 pages of the AA book. Anything else that doesn’t reconcile with the literature is not the program of AA. Keep it simple and we can be free of alcoholism and live happy, joyous and free.

    Thanks for reading and please leave feedback or comments. Questions are welcome!
    It's  a way for me to do "cyber" sponsoring or help non-alcoholics better understand AA.

    Wednesday, February 2, 2011

    Trying to fight the disease yourself? Can it be done? I found out no.

    I wish I could have put my mind to it and just “kept up my guard” to obtain freedom from the disease and the permanent sobriety I now have, (17 years) but I could not. My experience was that those intervals of trying to exercise my will power to combat the disease always failed. I could achieve a month, 2 weeks, 45 days, even 6 months once. But ultimately I drank again. Why? Because I have alcoholism and I found it’s very nature is the sufferers inability to “keep his guard up” and use his own mind to combat the disease. I found I was “powerless” in my ability to choose. I had become alcoholic and could no longer safely use alcohol and control my use of it. Yes I could use my will power and keep my guard up for awhile, but those intervals were always short lived and what I did build up in terms of health, finance and romance was almost always lost.

    If you find you cannot control your drinking and drink again, there is a way out I personally know to work. Not only have a I kept sober for 17 years but I have a new life, a new way of living. I no longer have to shield myself from booze, be careful about where I go or who I see. I haven’t had to keep my guard up for quite a long while. How? The spiritual program of AA.

    Sunday, January 2, 2011

    The 7 deadly Sins on Wikipedia

    Historical and modern definitions of the deadly sins

    Lust

    Lust or lechery (carnal "luxuria") is usually thought of as excessive thoughts or desires of a sexual nature. Aristotle's criterion was excessive love of others, which therefore rendered love and devotion to God as secondary[citation needed]. In Dante's Purgatorio, the penitent walks within flames to purge himself of lustful/sexual thoughts and feelings. In Dante's "Inferno", unforgiven souls of the sin of lust are blown about in restless hurricane-like winds symbolic of their own lack of self control to their lustful passions in earthly life.

    Extravagance

    Extravagance (Latin, luxuria) is unrestrained excess. Extravagant behaviour includes the frequent purchase of luxury goods and forms of debauchery.
    In the Romance languages, the cognates of luxuria (the Latin name of the sin) evolved to have an exclusively sexual meaning; the Old French cognate was adopted into English as luxury, but this lost its sexual meaning by the 14th century.[9]

    Gluttony


    "Excess"
    (Albert Anker, 1896)
    Derived from the Latin gluttire, meaning to gulp down or swallow, gluttony (Latin, gula) is the over-indulgence and over-consumption of anything to the point of waste. In the Christian religions, it is considered a sin because of the excessive desire for food or its withholding from the needy.[10]
    Depending on the culture, it can be seen as either a vice or a sign of status. Where food is relatively scarce, being able to eat well might be something to take pride in. But in an area where food is routinely plentiful, it may be considered a sign of self-control to resist the temptation to over-indulge.
    Medieval church leaders (e.g., Thomas Aquinas) took a more expansive view of gluttony,[10] arguing that it could also include an obsessive anticipation of meals, and the constant eating of delicacies and excessively costly foods.[11] Aquinas went so far as to prepare a list of six ways to commit gluttony, including:
    • Praepropere - eating too soon.
    • Laute - eating too expensively.
    • Nimis - eating too much.
    • Ardenter - eating too eagerly (burningly).
    • Studiose - eating too daintily (keenly).
    • Forente - eating wildly (boringly).

    Greed

    Main article: Greed (sin)

    1909 painting The Worship of Mammon by Evelyn De Morgan.
    Greed (Latin, avaritia), also known as avarice or covetousness, is, like lust and gluttony, a sin of excess. However, greed (as seen by the church) is applied to a very excessive or rapacious desire and pursuit of wealth, status, and power. St. Thomas Aquinas wrote that greed was "a sin against God, just as all mortal sins, in as much as man condemns things eternal for the sake of temporal things." In Dante's Purgatory, the penitents were bound and laid face down on the ground for having concentrated too much on earthly thoughts. "Avarice" is more of a blanket term that can describe many other examples of greedy behavior. These include disloyalty, deliberate betrayal, or treason,[citation needed] especially for personal gain, for example through bribery . Scavenging[citation needed] and hoarding of materials or objects, theft and robbery, especially by means of violence, trickery, or manipulation of authority are all actions that may be inspired by greed. Such misdeeds can include simony, where one profits from soliciting goods within the actual confines of a church.
    As defined outside of Christian writings, greed is an inordinate desire to acquire or possess more than one needs or deserves, especially with respect to material wealth.[12]

    Sloth

    Over time, the "acedia" in Pope Gregory's order has come to be closer in meaning to sloth (Latin, Socordia). The focus came to be on the consequences of acedia rather than the cause, and so, by the 17th century, the exact deadly sin referred to was believed to be the failure to utilize one's talents and gifts.[citation needed] Even in Dante's time there were signs of this change; in his Purgatorio he had portrayed the penance for acedia as running continuously at top speed.
    The modern view goes further, regarding laziness and indifference as the sin at the heart of the matter. Since this contrasts with a more willful failure to, for example, love God and his works, sloth is often seen as being considerably less serious than the other sins, more a sin of omission than of commission.

    Acedia

    Acedia (Latin, acedia) (from Greek ακηδία) is the neglect to take care of something that one should do. It is translated to apathetic listlessness; depression without joy. It is similar to melancholy, although acedia describes the behaviour, while melancholy suggests the emotion producing it. In early Christian thought, the lack of joy was regarded as a wilful refusal to enjoy the goodness of God and the world God created; by contrast, apathy was considered a refusal to help others in time of need.
    When Thomas Aquinas described acedia in his interpretation of the list, he described it as an uneasiness of the mind, being a progenitor for lesser sins such as restlessness and instability. Dante refined this definition further, describing acedia as the failure to love God with all one's heart, all one's mind and all one's soul; to him it was the middle sin, the only one characterised by an absence or insufficiency of love.

    Despair

    Despair (Latin, Tristitia) In this context, Despair is the precipitating cause of suicide. Feelings of hopelessness, despondency, pessimism and impending doom, were not the same as the condition, melancholy. "If the man be bereft, give him solace. If he be in physical torment, give him medicine. If he be to the desire of death, give him hope. Reason, encouragement, and faith bring hope, therefore, use them liberally." (Francis of Assisi). Since sadness often results in acedia, Pope Gregory's revision of the list subsumed Despair into Acedia.

    Wrath

    Wrath (Latin, ira), also known as anger or "rage", may be described as inordinate and uncontrolled feelings of hatred and anger. Anger, in its purest form, presents with self-destructiveness, violence, and hate that may provoke feuds that can go on for centuries. Anger may persist long after the person who did another a grievous wrong is dead. Feelings of anger can manifest in different ways, including impatience, revenge, and vigilantism.
    Wrath is the only sin not necessarily associated with selfishness or self-interest (although one can of course be wrathful for selfish reasons, such as jealousy, closely related to the sin of envy). Dante described vengeance as "love of justice perverted to revenge and spite". In its original form, the sin of wrath also encompassed anger pointed internally rather than externally. Thus suicide was deemed as the ultimate, albeit tragic, expression of wrath directed inwardly, a final rejection of God's gifts.

    Envy

    Like greed, Envy (Latin, invidia) may be characterized by an insatiable desire; they differ, however, for two main reasons:
    • First, greed is largely associated with material goods, whereas envy may apply more generally.
    • Second, those who commit the sin of envy resent that another person has something they perceive themselves as lacking, and wish the other person to be deprived of it.
    Dante defined this as "a desire to deprive other men of theirs." Envy can be directly related to the Ten Commandments, specifically "Neither shall you desire... anything that belongs to your neighbour". In Dante's Purgatory, the punishment for the envious is to have their eyes sewn shut with wire because they have gained sinful pleasure from seeing others brought low. Aquinas described envy as "sorrow for another's good".[13]

    Pride

    In almost every list Pride (Latin, superbia), or hubris, is considered the original and most serious of the seven deadly sins, and the source of the others. It is identified as a desire to be more important or attractive than others, failing to acknowledge the good work of others, and excessive love of self (especially holding self out of proper position toward God). Dante's definition was "love of self perverted to hatred and contempt for one's neighbour." In Jacob Bidermann's medieval miracle play, Cenodoxus, pride is the deadliest of all the sins and leads directly to the damnation of the titulary famed Parisian doctor. In perhaps the best-known example, the story of Lucifer, pride (his desire to compete with God) was what caused his fall from Heaven, and his resultant transformation into Satan. In Dante's Divine Comedy, the penitents were forced to walk with stone slabs bearing down on their backs to induce feelings of humility.

    Vainglory

    Vainglory (Latin, vanagloria) is unjustified boasting. Pope Gregory viewed it as a form of pride, so he folded vainglory into pride for his listing of sins.
    The Latin term gloria roughly means boasting, although its English cognate - glory - has come to have an exclusively positive meaning; historically, vain roughly meant futile, but by the 14th century had come to have the strong narcissistic undertones, of irrelevant accuracy, that it retains today.[14] As a result of these semantic changes, vainglory has become a rarely used word in itself, and is now commonly interpreted as referring to vanity (in its modern narcissistic sense).